Sunday 27 May 2012

Randomness



Ok, here are a whole bunch of random things that have crossed my mind since I arrived in India 2 weeks ago:

Dance
I love Indian dance culture!  We’ve been dancing in the streets before our open air meetings and during our 24h worship sessions, and I absolutely love how people of all ages get involved.  I love how it’s not sexualized the way it is in the West.  Granted, there are certain types of dancing that are sexualized, but the general type of dance that the average kid and youth do is just pure fun.

Sharing
I like how people here really look out for others.  If they have a cookie, they’ll snap it in half to share with you.  If they have a bottle of pop, they’ll give you a sip.  The only thing is that sometimes I don’t like to share.  The other day, we ran out of drinking water at the pastor’s house where we were eating.  I was about to go out to buy a bottle, but one of the guys bought it for me.  I was glad to be served by a gallant gentleman, but at the same time, I secretly was a little unhappy that I’d have to share the 1L of water with 15 people since he’d be bringing the water back directly to where the DTS team was (yes, I’m a great team player!).  When he came back, I made myself drink half the bottle before passing it off.  Needless to say, they finished it off for me.  The next time I was thirsty, I snuck out, bought myself a bottle, and drank the whole liter before going back to join the team.  Yes, I am a little stingy.

The Girl from the Village
I was sitting in church, looking out the door when I saw this 10-year-old girl with special needs on the ground, her navy blue skirt dusty.  A slightly younger girl, maybe eight, pulled hard on her right hand while a five-year-old pulled at her left hand, as if trying to lift her up.  As I continued to observe, I saw a three-year-old tug hard at her feet.  The girl with the learning disability was grinning at the others.  When the younger girls failed to lift her up, one of them began using her fists to pound on the head of the girl with special needs. 

That’s when I leapt to my feet, ran out the door without pausing to put on my sandals and grabbed the hands of the younger girls.  I found out that all 3 of them were hitting her.  The girl with a learning disability couldn’t speak clearly, and even if she could, my Telugu is too limited, but I can imagine that those same girls were the ones that pushed her to the ground.  Infuriated, I reprimanded them sharply and told them repeatedly, “no hitting.”  The girls still had little smirks on their faces, so I asked a friend to come and translate for me. 

It always amazes me how cruel children can be sometimes.  Cruelty and bullying—especially to those who are weak and unable to stand up for themselves—is something I absolutely detest. 

Just in case you didn’t know…

Even if you drink 4L of water, you probably don’t have to go to the washroom when the temperature is 40C because you sweat it all out.  Seriously.

A buffalo here generally gives 15-20L of milk per day and they cost around $1300+

The best cleaner and the only one that is free is ants.  What other product will diligently run around and sniff out all the crumbs and dead insects to remove?  What other product will work day in and day out removing the undesirable items from your floor?

Sweat stings when it drips into your eyes.

Corrugated roofs make the room HOT.  Thatched roofs and concrete roofs are less hot.  It’s even better if you have a false ceiling instead of your ceiling being the roof.

When it’s 40+ degrees in the day time, your bed sheets will feel like they’ve been just taken out of the dryer even at midnight.

It sucks being a girl because then you get extra bad heat rash in places where you have to wear an extra layer of clothing.

When it’s 47C out, and you’re under the sun, wind blowing in your face is not that fun.  It feels like you’ve just opened the oven to take out the roast beef and the heat has come surging out to the point of singeing your eyelashes.

Your arms can sweat, your legs can sweat, your face and neck can REALLY sweat, and even your feet can sweat.  Oh, did I mention your bottom?

Chameleons have really cool hands.  It looks like they’re wearing mittens.  Their eyes look like skin covered volcanoes with a little black opening at the peak.

It is possible to dance in the pitch dark without anyone getting hurt. 

The sweetest sound on earth is when you hear water dripping into a bucket after 36h of no water coming from the taps.  4h of continuous water flow a day is surely not too much to ask, is it?

The most joyful shout people make is when the refrigerator starts humming, the fan starts whirling, and the lights turn out.  “Electricity’s here!”

The grossest thing is when you have an open cut on your foot, and it starts stinging like crazy.  You look down to discover that it is black.  You bend down to discover that there are a whole bunch of fruit flies (that’s what they look like) that have landed on your foot to drink deep of your pus.

Ok, I lied.  The grossest thing on earth is to open your bedroom door to discover ants swarming around a dead baby lizard.  There are so many ants that they formed a circle around the lizard.  I didn’t want to deal with it, and everyone else was asleep by then, so I left it till morning.  By then, only the head and an arm was left.

All that being said, I'm still loving it here and I feel like I'm doing what I was made to do.

The Little Girl

“Can I sleep beside you tonight?”

This query from an eight-year-old girl startled me.  I opened my eyes and looked at her round face fringed by straight bangs.

“Well, why don’t you stay in yours?  Look, your bed is just beneath mine.  See how close we are?”

I closed my eyes and continued praying.  The little girl’s younger sister then came to tell me her sister was crying.  I climb down to ground level and put my arm around the silently sobbing girl.

“What’s wrong, dear?”

After a pause, she looks up at me.  “I miss my mom.  I miss my mom every day.”

She then put her head down and continued crying.  I laid my head on her shoulder and couldn’t help but grieve with her.  Later that night, she woke me up several times to ask if she could climb into my bed, and I finally conceded at dawn.  She then lay down beside me, snuggled against me, and promptly fell asleep.

I remember when she came to the children’s home with her 3 sisters.  I was volunteering at this children’s home in the winter of 2009 when they came.  Their mom had passed away from liver failure and other complications. 

This incident caused me to ponder about raising orphaned children.  How do we replace their parents’ love?  Is that even possible?  What does it mean to be a surrogate parent?  I do not claim to know the answer to any of the questions, but I do know one thing: love is the most important thing we can give a child, more than toys, fancy clothes, and delectable food.